Who wouldn't love a chocolate and strawberry flavored heart shaped donut this month? So I thought about buying myself some deliciously sinful donuts just because I have an excuse. But then I figured that I would really feel better about giving a Valentine gift to three of my lady friends who were in a difficult situation right now in their lives, and most likely wouldn't have be receiving any Valentine gift at all this year.
Let me call them my friends E, M, and D. My friend E, whose husband has passed away less than two years ago, had also experienced abuse and unfaithfulness by her husband when he was still living. I don't know sometimes if I would view it as a relief or some type of revenge for all the womanizing he did, but I wouldn't want any husband to die just because of that. But she she did teach me the lesson forgiveness, of sticking by your husband no matter what, and that everything will pass. Now I think she is actually happier with her life, raising her two kids peacefully and still joyful.
The other 2 friends, M and D, are currently separated from their husbands. D's husband left her a long time ago, but of course was bitter about it for some time and has only come to terms with him recently. M, on the other hand, I'm not sure how to really comfort since I'm not that close to her. She just changed her FB status to single last January and I was pretty shocked about that. She and her husband were godly people, people we looked up to in church, who were always the strong ones, who was so inseparable I just found it impossible to believe.
But my own experience in life taught me anything can happen. We may be obedient to God, we may serve in church and we may have a great marriage now, but nothing is permanent in this world, including marriage. So I just pray everyday that God lead us away from temptation, I pray that I would always work on having the best marriage and that I wouldn't ever experience such heartbreak again. I know that I cannot be secure in someone's love even if they claim faithfulness forever and ever. Only God never changes.
So this Valentines, I have spread the love to 3 women that I hoped would feel a little more loved not just this time of year, but no matter what season in life they are. Even if their husbands should go back to them, it shouldn't change who they are, and shouldn't make them less of a person without them. As for me, my job is to encourage them and to comfort them as a friend, not to pass on judgment or spread gossip, and I know the Lord taught me a lesson about marriage so I can also share it with others.
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