A Wife After God's Own Heart: Chapter 4

Chapter 4 : Enjoying Intimacy

I usually don't have much problems in this area, so I won't delve into it much deeply. And I wish the book also tackled issues at length, but with only 219 pages it leaves much to be discussed. So I plan to buy one marriage book a month and review it here in my blog. 

Anyways, in the Philippines, sex is not usually something couples talk about in groups except in the locker room or in green jokes. Our marriage was even a result of unexpected pregnancy, but God had honored our vows and kept us together til now. So I guess the challenge here is:

1. Schedule sex. We both work in an almost graveyard shift (think 2am) so it's quite difficult to have enough sleep, time and energy to work it out on our schedule. Of course it's been neglected lately, but it's something I think we should prioritize this year.
2. Talk about sex with your husband. 
3. Take time to prepare for sex.
4. Try to go to bed at the same time.
5. Tackle the excuse of being too tired.
6. Take care of yourself.
7. Take a short trip together.

All "little things" from 1 to 6 more or less goes together, and a little talk and scheduling  will be in order pretty soon. I hope to push through with our Retrouvaille session at the end of this month, which is for troubled marriages. 

But so far, so good. Yesterday when my husband went home I prepared a meal (even though I just got home myself) and let him tell me about his day. I'm glad he vented out to me about his work problems. I feel he is slowly warming up and relaxed when he's with me. Any improvement is better than none, right? And I like myself myself better this way too. So here's to hoping this year is a little better for us wives as we try to discern how God wants us to be better at home.